The Daily Post offered up this nugget of inspiration last week: when was the last time you felt lonely?
To be perfectly honest here – I can’t remember the last time I felt lonely. I CAN recall the last time I felt the opposite (over-stimulated, over-socialized, overly-sought-out, over-peopled) because that’s pretty much how I feel all the time. I’m ALWAYS under-isolated.
There have been plenty of times I’ve wondered: how many people out there in the world are the same? Who else out there shares in my craving for solitude? Anyone else think the mythical old hermit living in an isolated cave has found Utopia?
Although, my Utopia would have to include HVAC and WIFI…
One ‘label’ in particular which really gets under my skin within this society is ‘Anti-Social.’ Granted, labeling different groups of people irritates me in general – but this one particularly rankles because it’s personal. It points the ‘finger of judgement’ at anyone comfortable enough to spend as much time as possible in the bliss of solitude – delivering a label of deviant, unnatural, or harboring an illness in need of medication.
Bah. I don’t need medication to become normal – for me, solitude IS normal, and the pursuit of such a worthwhile goal.
Why should I? My closet is one of the few places I can get the solitude I crave…
So, yes, being an introvert is a step up from being judged Anti-Social, but it’s still a label – a societal marker – a way to segregate humans into little slices of humanity – and I still call that wrong. Stop marginalizing folk based on things.
We’re all human beings – we are all crafted from the same DNA, generating the same properties in form and function. One head. Two eyes. Two hands. 10 fingers and 10 toes. Hair color, skin color, short, tall, fat, thin, personality quirks of all degrees – these things are minute variations in the overall form and we really need to start accepting them for the unique markers they are, rather than treating them as major flaws needing to be fixed or deviations that need to be studied.
So I say with aplomb – stop trying to study me, stop trying to understand me, and stop trying to ‘fix’ me. I’m not broken, I’m not deviant, and I’m not flawed.
I’m just me.